Getting Into Relationship - The Tao of Badass
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But in actual fact once you get past the dramatic name given to this program by its author, Joshua Pellicer, what you find is actually some quite sensible and decent dating advice from men.
Now I know, there are few areas of our emotional life more controversial and open to misinterpretation than intimate physical and emotional relationships between men and women.
But you see, ironically that's why so much information has sprung up on the Internet, with the object of informing men about relationships and dating!
And when you think about it, there's no
particular surprise here, because the Internet is the ideal forum in which to
convey the kind of information that people might be embarrassed to find out in
I think not, so in essence what dating advice programs on the
Internet can do is to give us a means of getting information about intimate
relationships that we wouldn't otherwise be able to get without embarrassment.
So I'm a bit of a fan of them, and I'm certainly a fan of
the dating program The Tao of
Badass by Joshua Pellicer. Check it out.
But the fact that many of them are indeed useless and irrelevant doesn't deny the possibility that some of them actually are extremely useful, and that we can benefit from the advice that things like the Tao of Badass have to offer.
So I want to give you a review of the Tao of Badass, and then tell you something about what's in it, so that in among all the confusion and misinformation that is available on the Internet, you can make your own decision as to whether or not you want to buy it.
Now, first of all it's obviously a program for men who want to get into relationship with women, and to that extent it's not actually likely to be very much use to women.
What I know about the readership of this site from the research I've done is that the majority of readers are men, so I conclude from that that there is a vast demand from men for information about female sexuality and female emotional issues.
I think the reason for this is that men really want to learn about women, they want to know what is going to make getting into a relationship with a woman easier and they genuinely desire real connection and intimacy (see the picture below to understand why!)
You see, I think one of the things that matters here is that we are all programmed to be in an intimate relationship with other people -- and I don't necessarily mean a romantic relationship, although a lot of people do interpret that comment that way.
I think the best way to sum it up for me is to say that we are actually social animals, we're not designed to live our lives alone, we're designed to live them in some form of community, although the exact nature of that varies from one society to another.
In our own society we've chosen to adopt a model that mostly has us living as couples, in intimate relationships with members of the opposite gender.
To that end you would think that some system would have become established by default to inform men and women about the things they need to know to form relationships with their opposite number, but as you know, no such thing has happened.
I think that's unfortunate, to say the least, but the point - at least to me - is that programs like the Tao of Badass can make up the gap.
And make no mistake about it, they can do it very successfully! Although there is a real intimacy information gap, Joshua Pellicer and his like (the dating advice internet "gurus", I call them) have plugged it with online Internet dating and relationship advice programs for men and women.
I suppose you might be asking how reliable his information is, and the only answer I can give you to that is that it's actually very reliable. I make that judgment as a psychotherapist, and I don't make it lightly.
The Tao of Badass Reviewed and Revisited
So the first and most important aspect of the Tao of Badass is the fact that it contains information on gender roles.
Gender roles are actually really critical in forming a good supportive relationship with a member of the opposite sex, because (in my opinion) it is the polarity of masculinity and femininity within a relationship that allows any dynamic relationship between men and women to flourish.
Following that, there is a lot of excellent information provided about female motivations, female expectations, and female emotions.
It is - of course - a truism that most men don't understand the first thing about women's feelings and emotions, and they certainly don't understand why women can't be logical in the way that men are!
Of course none of this helps establish a good relationship between men and women - each gender expects the other to function in a way similar to itself, and indeed expects the other to adapt to meet the requirements of the gender in question.
Yet when we come down to it, the only thing that will allow us to communicate intimately as equals within a relationship is an understanding of how the opposite sex thinks, feels, and behaves.
Now, you may think that it's rather perverse try and provide this kind of information in an Internet dating program, but my response to that observation is simply this: it's better provided on the Internet than not provided at all!
Now having said all of that, of course I do recognize that there may be difficulties for some people in accepting the validity of psychological and emotional information provided through an Internet program.
That's why I've written a website where you can actually look at all of this information decide yourself whether or not you think it's worth buying: www.sexistentialist.com
What else is on the Tao Of Badass besides information about gender roles?
Well, like I say, there's a lot of information about the different behaviors that the two sexes exemplify and embody. Indeed, one of the key aspects of the Tao of Badass program is setting out critical aspects of male and female behavior that could be regarded as relationship makers or breakers.
Included in this section are things like the necessity for men and women to come to a compromise about sexual behaviour: for example, is it appropriate for a woman to have sex on the first date, or should she wait until, as we once had said "she's gained the man's respect"?
Who should be the first person in relationship to say "I love you"? And why would such a thing make a difference to the success or otherwise of a relationship?
There, now you begin to see, perhaps, through questions like that, why the Tao of Badass is actually such a useful program for men!
Most likely these are questions that you've never actually thought about, and yet when you're involved with a woman, you can guarantee that she's thinking about such issues all the time! It's really for that reason this as a man you need to be informed, and have access to key psychological principles, such as the ones described in The Tao of Badass review that will help you to form a strong relationship.
Updated: June 3 2016