Making Love and Orgasm During Sex

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Women's Orgasm - The Possibility Of Multiple Orgasm

The whole idea of women being able to achieve multiple orgasms has become, as one of Shere Hire's interviewees put it in the 1970s, a "competitive" matter, a kind of "Orgasmic Olympics." As a result many women have begun to see themselves as sexual underachievers. And the question of whether a woman can achieve multiple orgasms during sex in one session has been almost as contentious as the debate about the clitoral versus the vaginal orgasm. Kinsey found that 14 percent of the women in his study reported having multiple orgasms. Other writers have expressed uncertainty as to the truth of the reports of female subjects who claim to have multiple orgasms. Instead, they have suggested that their experiences were, as one sexologist put it, "nonterminative" minor climaxes rather than complete orgasms during intercourse.

Masters and Johnson, however, established beyond doubt that many women are capable of the experience and they actually observed multiple orgasms, and measured the accompanying physiological spasms and contractions. They wrote: "If a female who is capable of having orgasm regularly is properly stimulated within a short period after her first climax, she will in most instances be capable of having a second, third, fourth and even fifth or sixth orgasm before she is fully satiated. In contrast with the male's usual inability to have more than one orgasm in a short period, many females, especially when clitorally stimulated, can regularly have five or six full orgasms within a matter of a few minutes."

Masters and Johnson also found that the orgasms did not diminish in intensity - on the contrary many of the reports proved that the orgasms after the first or second often increased in intensity.

But many women are not aware that they have this potential. Among those who do, there are also some women who are reticent and reluctant to seek more than one orgasm, even if they need it, after their partner has had his. According to Shere Hite. there often seemed to be an unconscious rejection of the possibility of having more than one orgasm. The following quotations from The Hite Report illustrate this point:

• "It's hard for me to indicate that I want more than one orgasm."
• "I've never felt that I couldn't come again with pleasure, but am hesitant to pursue it."
• "I think I could have several if he used his tongue, but I don't like to make him stay down there that long."
• "On the rare occasions in the past when I came with my partner, two or three was not enough but I couldn't admit to the man I wanted more."
• "With men I never have more than one. I have the feeling ... they aren't really interested in your capacity for many orgasms."

• "I'm not sure whether I have one long orgasm during sex or several shorter ones."
• "My orgasms are usually so prolonged that I wonder if they may represent multiple orgasm."
• "I don't know how many orgasms during sex I'm capable of."

Hite makes a distinction between the multiple orgasm and the sequential orgasm, and writes: "Multiple orgasms, which are much rarer, are several orgasms with no break in-between. Sequential orgasms can be continued indefinitely ... but you must wait a few minutes after each orgasm, until you feel the return of the focus of sensation."

The differences between the types of orgasm different women experience seems to account for the statements made by some women that after the first orgasm they can have as many as five or six following. But others said they could not have more than one orgasm in sex as their clitoral area became too sensitive to touch. Or again that one deep orgasm was satisfying enough.

So from all the facts we must conclude that although many women are physiologically capable of multiple orgasm, and some clearly enjoy the experience, many find that emotionally and psychologically one is enough, and others that the sensitivity of the clitoris after one prevents them being stimulated into having further orgasms.

The Importance of Orgasm

How important is it for a woman to experience orgasm? Well, we believe it cannot be emphasized too often that orgasm cannot be taken as the sole criterion for determining the degree of satisfaction which a woman may derive from sexual activity. Although many married/partnered women never respond during sexual intercourse to the point of orgasm, their relationships remain happy because of the woman's satisfaction in not only being able to give pleasure to her husband but also in the social and emotional security of relationship and family life. Plus, of course, there are plenty more way to get orgasm...the point, however is that many women do not care if they don't orgasm during sex, but get satisfaction from sex as an emotionally fulfilling act.

But this is only part of the truth. Clinical data confirm that the persistent failure of a woman to reach orgasm can seriously damage her relationship. The woman becomes disappointed because of her inability to achieve what she believes she should. This disappointment develops into a feeling of inadequacy or inferiority which reflects on all other aspect of her relationship with the man, and indeed with men in general where there is any sexual element implied.

The failure of his lover to achieve orgasm is naturally a disappointment to a sensitive and emotional man. It can lead to his also developing a feeling of inferiority which will result In friction and discord. So, even if orgasm is not the sole criterion of satisfaction for a woman, it is very important, both for her personally and for her relationship. To illustrate this point, here are some descriptions culled from The Hite Report:

• "Orgasm feels great! Like a combination of intense pleasurable sensations plus an ecstatic frenzy of love, energy and emotion all mixed together."
• "Orgasms are a renewal of all my senses an awakening of life, spring, refreshing, sparkling, exciting, and the complete relief of everyday boredom."
• "They make me feel incredibly happy, everything on the way to orgasm is heavenly. An orgasm cancels out all rage and longing for at least 48 hours, and the day an orgasm bores me, I think I'll commit suicide."
• "A marvelous happiness, comparable to no other. "
• "Orgasm. The most fantastic sensation I've ever experienced."
• "At best, an organ-moving cataclysm: my ovaries, uterus, breasts, and brain become one singing dark pulsating sea of the most exquisite feeling."
• One woman said: "Whoever said that orgasm wasn't important for a woman was undoubtedly a man."
• But it appears that the pressures of the sexual revolution have had some unfortunate repercussions. A lot of women feel that if they do not always have or demand full sexual satisfaction, they are somehow failures.
• "Yes, I must have orgasm. Otherwise I feel I'm not a real person. . ."
• "I would enjoy sex with no orgasm at times, if I felt other people weren't so uptight about it and if the reasons were my own."
• "I'm afraid that new partners will think I'm weird and not as sexy as other women if I don't have orgasms."
• "I wish orgasms didn't exist. Then maybe sex would be fun."
• "I don't think orgasms are that important; the literature has given women another burden. But I'm ashamed to admit, because of the myth, I feel 'good' having an orgasm like I'm a real woman!"
• On the other hand, not having an orgasm with a man is frustrating to a lot of women who feel cheated knowing he has had one.
• "Without orgasm I feel robbed."
• Having sex without an orgasm makes me feel I was along for the ride, but why? (except when I'm really emotionally involved)."

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When you're with a woman experiencing a G spot orgasm and female ejaculation, you'll discover why it's one of the most thrilling sexual experiences a couple can ever have. She is intensely sexually aroused, liberated from her inhibitions, and deeply connected with her partner, both sexually and emotionally; while he is satisfied and confident in his ability to pleasure his partner, intensely turned on, and also has the opportunity to enjoy the greatest sex of his life.

Actually, when you buy into the sexual techniques shown in Female Orgasm Secrets you really will get the greatest sex of your life. For one thing, your partner is open to you at every level. The natural consequence of a G spot orgasm is that a woman feels deeply connected with her man, and because of that she wants you, needs you, and desires you; for another, her body is dripping juice, swollen, wet and warm, more aroused than ever before.

Making love to a woman in this state takes you both to a much more intense level of sexual pleasure. As she feels orgasmic sexual energy flowing through her whole body, the thrusts of your erect penis during intercourse on her G spot, that most sensitive trigger point in her vagina, will catapult her into waves of orgasmic bliss and simultaneously tip you over the edge into your own orgasm, giving you a level of sexual pleasure you never imagined possible.

But what is this magical G spot? It's an area of special tissue located outside and on the top edge of the vagina as a woman lies on her back. It seems to have the ability to produce a sweet fluid during sexual arousal, a fluid which resembles the secretions of the male prostate gland. When a woman reaches orgasm, the rhythmic contractions of her body may squirt this fluid out of her urethra with great force. Squirting, or "female ejaculation", is unbelievably sexy and gives a woman extreme feelings of sexual pleasure. And most men find it unbelievably arousing.

We know squirting is not urination, and we know it's linked to a whole series of different nerve pathways which switch on and add to the pleasure provided by the clitoris. We also know it only happens when a man stimulates a woman's G spot in the correct way. And that's where the straightforward yet comprehensive techniques explained in Female Orgasm Secrets can give you a head start! Whether you use your fingers or your penis to stimulate a woman's G spot, you need to know what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. Otherwise....all you get is ordinary sex, which, no matter how good it is, just can't compare with whole body orgasm and female ejaculation - for either partner.